Best Laid Plans

There’s an old saying that life is what happens while you’re making other plans. We think this applies doubly to weddings; you can spend years planning your perfect wedding, but you never know what’s going to happen on the day. Ellie & Craig 25.02.17 (407of765)_new

Sometimes, you’ve just gotta laugh. Photo: Little Black Bow

Like anyone in the wedding business, we love an organised bride. We love it when you read our quotes and terms and conditions all the way through and come back with questions. We love when you send us the contact details for your venue, cake-maker and hairdresser so we can co-ordinate with them. We love it when you know how your venue is going to be set up and what colour your bridesmaids will be wearing and whether your favourite flower is in season on your wedding date.

Organised is great. Organised makes us smile. But where organised becomes a problem is when it crosses over to inflexible. It’s your day, and maybe you’ve been dreaming about it for years, but there’s no such thing as a wedding that goes one-hundred percent to plan. From wardrobe malfunctions to extreme weather events to  cancelled babysitters to a flowergirl sneaking behind the dessert table and picking out the one profiterole that seems to be holding up the whole crocembouche right before you start your speeches (…that happened), things will go wrong. The good news? Your guests probably won’t notice. If they do, they probably won’t care. They might laugh as the carefully constructed pyramid of choux pastry tumbles down as neatly and simply as a controlled building demolition, but they won’t think any less of you or your ceremony.

The most important thing is that you don’t let it ruin your day either. One way to do that is to plan for it, where possible, or delegate that job to someone else. On the day, switch off your phone and let someone you trust handle all the last-minute details. That way, you might not even know about them!

Outdoor weddings, especially, can be prone to things going awry. Every bride who plans an outdoor ceremony or reception spends the weeks leading up to her wedding looking at the weather forecast obsessively, crossing her fingers and toes. Most of them get lucky. Some don’t. Just recently, we’ve set up for an outdoor reception with minimal shade in scorching, extreme heat, and an exterior church installation in driving rain. Extreme weather is a hazard to work in, especially when we’re up and down ladders, and it’s almost certainly going to result in some damage to your flowers. But also, your guests are going to spend more time looking after their own comfort than at our work, and the effect will go to waste. An outdoor installation is stunning, but if your guests are rushing from cars to the church under umbrellas, or hiding out in whatever shade they can find, they will barely notice it.

The best thing to do if you’re planning an outdoor wedding is to have a plan B – one you’re happy with, rather than one that is a last-resort you want to avoid at all costs and aren’t going to use despite every supplier and weather forecast telling you you should. Talk to your venue co-ordinator about what they recommend and if, in the lead-up to your wedding day, it’s looking like the weather is going to be a problem, let them lead you. Talk to your suppliers and listen to their opinions – they’re there for you and the most important thing for all of them is that you have a magical day. And don’t forget that the most important thing about the day is the comfort and enjoyment of you, your groom, your bridal party and your guests, and that’s what you’re all going to remember.

When it comes to flowers, most floral installations can be adapted for different spaces, especially with a days notice. With ten years experience in Hunter Valley weddings, we’re very familiar with most major venues through the valley, and we’re happy to chat directly with your venue co-ordinator to see how best to modify your plans to work with Plan-B so you don’t lose out on any of the lovely florals you envisioned.

Still, things can and do go awry. The best thing to do to ensure you enjoy your wedding day is to take a deep breath, remember that your guests probably have no idea of the intricate details you’ve been thinking about for months, and won’t be upset if things go a little off-script, and that, at the end of the day, you’ll be married to someone you’re crazy in love with, and it’ll be perfect, no matter how exactly it happens.


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